Thursday

Never stop talking, because silence hurts





Silence is Deafening


When you stop talking all you have is silence and silence is one of the most difficult things to deal with. If you’re having a problem with someone and you wont talk about it, then all your doing is starting a fire that can’t be put out. It not only can’t be put out but it gets bigger all the time till it becomes a forest fire and consumes everything in its way.

Silence Equals Hurt

It you want to truly hurt the one you love, that loves you; give them the silent treatment. When you do this your holding them hostage and they cant get better till you say something to them.

Its Hard to Talk with Your Foot in Your Mouth

I have had a few occasions when I said or did something that really affected my wife adversely. She is one who slightly with draws till the smoke clears and then talks to me again. I pushed for conversation right away because I don’t like feeling the way I do when this kind of situation is happening. I’m smart enough to know when I have put my foot in my mouth and I want to resolve it the minute I say or do the wrong thing. So I know the pain of silence and how harmful it can be. If your experiencing this from your special person and they wont say anything for days or weeks, I would suggest that what they feel for you isn’t the real thing; because if they loved you they wouldn’t be doing this to you. So save yourself future pain, bite the bullet of hurt and find a new real love relationship.

Five Seconds of Silence if OK to make a Point

Silence is sometimes appropriate to make a very important point. But shouldn’t be used as regular form of punishment just because you did something not up to snuff. Love is never silent between two people who truly love each other.

Silence is Best Served Cold

I used to work with a man who was constantly giving his wife the silent treatment and it was breaking her heart. The last time I observed this behavior we were having a gathering at their home, which involved drinking and munching on finger food; which his wife spent a great deal of time preparing. They not only looked good, but they tasted good and everyone except him liked the food. He gave her the silent treatment and wouldn’t say a word to her. In time with tongues lose by drink the whole thing came to a head. I asked him to stop picking on his wife and told me to mind my own business. He shared his words with me by shouting and everyone heard what he said and sided with his wife. When we all left no one said good by to him and only talked to her.

Silence Deserves Silence

On Monday we all returned to work and unknowingly had each decided we were going to give him the silent treatment in retaliation for the way he treated his wife. All day he sought conversation and only one person communicated with him and then only in written form.

Group Silence Works

As the days passed he became more and more stressful about the no talking thing going on with him. On Friday his wife came over to collect his check and told the cashier her husband was devastated by what was happening at work. She said he is truly sorry and promised he will never give me the silent treatment again.

He Learned & Started Talking

On Monday we treated him as one of us again and to the best of my knowledge he is still being talkative to his wife. I guess he learned the hurt that silence can bring and that was a good lesson to learn. That’s how I feel and I’m sticking to it.


Don L. Terrill
The Marriage Guru

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