Saturday

Is your TV doing all your talking?




Is your TV Talking to you?


Is the TV always on when you’re together? Are you finding yourself saying fewer words to each other and spending more time then ever talking about whats on TV? If you say yes or maybe, then this maybe a problem developing in your marriage. The invention of the TV was a great move forward in sharing what is going on in life. But it was at least in my thinking not a device that should be doing your talking for you.

Talking Helps Clear the Air

Talking is a unique way of connecting with some one. Now Im talking about being in the same room, looking at each other and sharing whatever is on your mind. Talking helps clear the air and keep clarity between people sharing their togetherness. Talking keeps the glue of marriage working and holding couples together.

She Knows How I Feel about Her

We have all heard or spoken the words; she knows how I feel about feel her. This statement also applies to men. All things in life need reinforcement from time to time. None of us are mind readers, if you value someone share the words that explain how you feel. It only takes a moment and helps keep the home fires burning for you.

Spend Less time with your TV

So pay attention to your life and observe how much time is being consumed by your TV and is it communicating more thoughts then you are? If it is, start slowly to incorporate more time talking about each other and how things are going in your life and how you feel about things. What you talk about isn’t important; the important thing is that you’re talking. At first it may seem a tad strange and a little hard to do, but it’s worth the effort for making things better between the two of you. You’ll be surprised how much you have to share with each other. And as time progresses maybe you’ll find yourself moving closer to each other and touching happens again.

We just Drifted Apart

You hear the stories of couples drifting apart and can't really explain what happen to them. But if you listen closely you'll hear the words, we just don’t talk anymore. When we were younger we talked and touched all the time; we couldn’t keep are hands off each other. And so the stories of divorce go, couples don’t stop caring about each other, they just stop talking and that’s the first stage of losing their togetherness. That’s how I feel and I’m sticking to it.


Don L. Terrill
The Marriage Guru

photo by Elijah

Sunday

Always buy things for each other




Give Presents to each Other


Giving things to each other is one way of saying how much you love the person your with. But this takes special attention and requires paying attention to what your partner is doing and what they need or want that will improve the quality of their life. And most of the time they wont do it for themselves and primarily because they don't really see the value it will add to their life.

It's Amazing what your Love will do for you

For sometime lately I have been starting to see my favorite casual shirts start to thin out and beginning the process of unraveling. I have six of these shirts and they fit just right and always feel so good when I wear them. I have convinced myself that they will no longer be available and Ill have to start wearing new shirts and one of my joys will no longer be available to me.

She found my Favorite Shirts

Before leaving to visit my eldest son for three weeks my wife found the manufacturer of the shirts I like and contacted them and they sent her one shirt as a sample to try. And to my surprise and amazement was exactly the same as my original shirts. She ordered five more and my life was fulfilled again. Once again my beautiful wife thought of me and found a favorite thing for me. And because of her I get up everyday and thank the God of Love for putting us two together.

Walk the Extra Mile it's Good for your Marriage

Going the extra mile for your special person keeps the flame of love glowing. So always remember that caring about someone requires action on your part and your rewards will greatly out weight the time you spent making it happen. That’s how I feel and I’m sticking to it.


Don L. Terrill
The Marriage Guru

photo by Nadya Peek

Just because you know something, doesn’t mean you should say it.




Are You Required to Share that Information?

Maybe your forty-five years old and you did or know things that would affect the person your married to now. Are you required by your marriage commitment to share that information with your spouse? Lets explore this thought for a moment. And lets just ask another question first. Is it reasonable to assume that this is privileged information and doesn’t require me to tell it? As a rule I think I would opted to not to say something unless I received a direct question from my spouse. Now I realize that may not seem fair, but why add to the muddy water if you don’t have to. I love my wife with every fiber of my being and would do anything for her. But sometimes giving information may hurt the one you love and it has nothing to do with the relationship the two of you have.

Only Answer the Question and don't Elaborate


Its too bad that smart people of the world don’t develop a device that will show us how someone would feel about certain subject matter, then we could take the stand that we don’t want to inflict pain on the one and only love of our life. While I don’t think that device exists yet, so we must do the next best thing. When asked only answer the question and don’t elaborate. Then just wait till another question comes up and then respond in the same manner again. If it looks like your going to the third degree spill you guts and then exit the room till you company is requested again.

What You Don't Know can't Hurt You

Sometimes we can go our entire life and not know the truth of something in our life. What you don’t know as a rule according to my thinking cant hurt you until you know it. So if you don’t mind, don’t tell me something that’s going to hurt me if I can’t do anything about it. Knowledge that hurts doesn’t hurt until it reaches the knowing part of your mind. In this case ignorance is bliss and I would rather be blissful and full of crappy thoughts that hurt every time I think of them.

You Can't Take it Back

Just remember, once something is shared it cant be taken back. So keep it to yourself unless you receive a direction question. That’s how I feel and I’m sticking to it.

Don L.
The Marriage Guru

photo by adactio