Thursday

10 Tips on How to Rekindle the Magic In Your Relationship


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10 Tips on How to Rekindle The Magic In Your Relationship
By Michael Webb

Are you frustrated that your relationship doesn’t have the magic and romance that it once had?

You’re not alone.

Living with the same partner for a long time can become stable and comfortable, and, as a result, can also kill the spark that made your relationship so special in the first place.

Here are some simple, fun and creative ideas to reignite that magic:

1. SEND THEM A UNIQUE GIFT

Get a piece of paper and some crayons. Draw a bright childlike picture with a smiley sun and two stick figures holding hands. Add labels with your two names pointing to the stick figures. Write ‘I Love You’ inside a heart. Next get a large formal envelope. Place your drawing inside and type up a formal address label of your partner's workplace, such as: “For the immediate and urgent attention of: Rebecca Jones, Level 20, Collins & Smith Solicitors, New York.” Mail it to your partner so they receive it in the middle of a busy day.

2. BECOME KIDS AGAIN

If you are walking by a park, visit the swings and give your partner a ride. This will often bring back happy memories from their childhood.

3. FUN WITH WATER

On a hot summer’s day, buy two large water pistols and take them to the beach with you. Pull them out and throw one to your partner and then have a huge water fight.

4. A MASSAGE WITH A TWIST

Buy a small, decorated cardboard box, a sheet of colored tissue paper, some massage oil and a blank card. Line the box with the tissue paper. Place the massage oil in the box and write the following message on the card: I know a great masseur. For an appointment call: (Your Phone Number)

5. BRING BACK CHILDHOOD MEMORIES

Contact your partner's family and ask if there was anything she always wanted when she was a little girl. For example if she always wanted a porcelain doll, buy one for her birthday. She will not only appreciate the gift, but also the fact that you were thoughtful enough to find out what she always wanted. You can do this for your man too.

6. STARE AT THE CLOUDS

Drive into the country, find a grassy hill, and lie with your partner and look up at the clouds.

7. WALK ALONG THE BEACH

Trace out the shape of a large love heart in the sand. Sit inside the heart and cuddle your partner as you watch the sun go down.

8. ORGANIZE A PICNIC ON A WARM SUMMER’S NIGHT

Spread a picnic blanket on the ground and get together some snacks, chocolates and champagne. Lie down on the blanket with your partner and gaze up at the stars together.

9. SHOW YOU’RE GRATEFUL FOR YOUR PARTNER

Leave a long-stem rose where your partner will find it, with a note on it saying: "Thank you for coming into my life."

10. SPICE UP YOUR LOVEMAKING

Probably the most profound way to rekindle the romance in your relationship is to spice up your lovemaking. Surprise your partner with a little gift after you make love, try a new position, learn to give your partner a sensual massage before or after, or just spend some time staring into each other’s eyes and caressing their bare skin before making love.

Many people underestimate the affect passionate and intimate lovemaking has on a relationship. If you spice it up, chances are you and your partner will naturally do romantic things for each other. Why? Because passionate lovemaking connects two people in a meaningful and unexplainable way that nothing else can.


Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of 500
Lovemaking Tips, for more tips click here.

Tuesday

He Will Become What You Call Him


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He Will Become What You Call Him

by Bob Grant, L.P.C. - "The Relationship Doctor"

Years ago, there was a therapist I worked with named Susan. Susan told me she went to a seminar that a friend of ours named Steve was giving.

Since she thought she may want to do similar seminars in the future about marriage, she wanted to see how Steve made his presentation.

So, Susan took her husband Dave and during the seminar, Steve made this statement: "What you call your spouse, they will become". Now, Susan had been married for 20 years, and when she heard this statement she laughed to herself as she leaned over to Dave and said, "Ha, skinny!"

Dave leaned toward her, laughing, and said, "Haha, sexy!" After the seminar was over, she said to me, "Bob, I made it a point to try that, just to see what would happen.

For 10 years, Dave weighed 215 pounds, and hadn't been able to get rid of more than 5 pounds at a time, and then he got discouraged and gave up." So, Susan began to call Dave "skinny" and "slim" as the opportunities presented themselves.

After 2 months, she asked him how his weight was coming, and he reported that he had lost over 18 pounds. She was amazed.

At the end of the story, I paused and asked her, "Susan, does Dave call you sexy?" She gave me a pained smile and said, "No." Immediately I thought to myself, "that's too bad because Dave probably has no idea what he's missed out on."

It wasn't that Susan needed a makeover or that there was anything wrong with her at all.

Dave had missed out on an opportunity to influence his lovely wife. Notice what happened with Susan? She had to make it a priority to take the step. She didn't wait until she felt like it, or until she saw that Dave was doing it correctly. Instead, she was proactive.

She made a decision, and after that decision was made, she proactively and consistently pursued it until she got the results she wanted. What Susan stumbled onto is what I know about men-they want to be influenced by a woman!

Some men are not good at receiving this, or at giving up power, but what most long to be married to a woman who shapes and molds them.

This type of influence does not feel threatening to a man. Susan was the same case. She would have loved for Dave to influence her, to shape her, to reinforce what he thought about her.

Here was a seminar that gave Dave the perfect opportunity, yet he missed the opportunity.

For more information by Bob Grant click here.