Just because you know something, doesn’t mean you should say it.

Are You Required to Share that Information?

Maybe your forty-five years old and you did or know things that would affect the person your married to now. Are you required by your marriage commitment to share that information with your spouse? Lets explore this thought for a moment. And lets just ask another question first. Is it reasonable to assume that this is privileged information and doesn’t require me to tell it? As a rule I think I would opted to not to say something unless I received a direct question from my spouse. Now I realize that may not seem fair, but why add to the muddy water if you don’t have to. I love my wife with every fiber of my being and would do anything for her. But sometimes giving information may hurt the one you love and it has nothing to do with the relationship the two of you have.

Only Answer the Question and don't Elaborate

Its too bad that smart people of the world don’t develop a device that will show us how someone would feel about certain subject matter, then we could take the stand that we don’t want to inflict pain on the one and only love of our life. While I don’t think that device exists yet, so we must do the next best thing. When asked only answer the question and don’t elaborate. Then just wait till another question comes up and then respond in the same manner again. If it looks like your going to the third degree spill you guts and then exit the room till you company is requested again.

What You Don't Know can't Hurt You

Sometimes we can go our entire life and not know the truth of something in our life. What you don’t know as a rule according to my thinking cant hurt you until you know it. So if you don’t mind, don’t tell me something that’s going to hurt me if I can’t do anything about it. Knowledge that hurts doesn’t hurt until it reaches the knowing part of your mind. In this case ignorance is bliss and I would rather be blissful and full of crappy thoughts that hurt every time I think of them.

You Can't Take it Back

Just remember, once something is shared it cant be taken back. So keep it to yourself unless you receive a direction question. That’s how I feel and I’m sticking to it.

Don L.
The Marriage Guru

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