Be cautious about saying you’re sorry

Stop Saying Your Sorry

Saying you’re sorry all the time is just as bad as not saying it at all. I have a confession to make I used to say I’m sorry all the time. I’m not sure how it got started and what compelled me to keep saying it. When I first started my wife just said don’t worry about it, its know big deal. But like some brain dead baboon I just kept saying the words till my wife finally consumed all she could and just unloaded on me. My wife always uses the straight approach and looks you directly in the eyes when she’s delivering her presentation. At the time I was driving and missed a turn that I frequently miss and once again I said I’m sorry. She said in her natural voice park there and I did. She turned off the car and just looked at me. Then with the knowledge of the universe and a Generals Patch on her shoulder; she told me that there’s nothing wrong with me and I don’t have to say I’m sorry ever again. I started to say something and she just put her finger to her mouth and I understood that enough is enough and I was never going to say that phase again. And to my knowledge I never have.

Faith Cured my Sorry

I have on a couple occasions wondered why her words and method worked so well in curing my sorry phase. Maybe its because I have absolute faith in her and thusly believe everything she tells me. She told me I was ok and that was like going to a revival meeting and getting cured by the words from the Holy Book.

Just let the Mistake Go

Now a days when a situation comes up that I should know better I let it go or comment I’m going to get that right the next time. Sometimes my lovely wife will offer a landmark or something that will help me recall things better. I comment that’s a good idea and I give it a moment of thought and most of the time its helps when the situation comes up again.

My Wife gave me time to correct my Bad Behavior

Maintaining a positive marriage requires small adjustments when a situation calls for it. My wife viewed my behavior has harmful to me emotionally. She gave me able time to correct my malfunction and then with kindness, love and logical words convinced me I was ok and that made me feel better and then I was better.

Opps is OK

Sure situations still arrive when opps is required, but things have changed and only one opps is spoken and then the world moves on. That’s how I feel and I’m sticking to it.

Don L. Terrill
The Marriage Guru

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