Love is Perfect just the way it is

Love Requires no Fixing

Because of that no tinkering is required. If your one of the lucky ones and have true love you won’t feel the need to fix or change anything about the person your with.

Love only requires Love to make it Perfect

So if you’re truly in Love with each other all those other differences wont matter. But if you think you’re close to love and only need to critique a few things, then you really don’t have the real thing. Because the real thing stands alone and requires nothing else.

But when you don’t have it, all the differences stand out like a sore thumb

I remember one time I hit my thumb with a hammer and it swelled up and turned bright red. I went to the Emergency Room thinking I broke something. The attending person told me only time would make it better.

More time with someone will not make Love for the both of you

If you love each other you will experience that feeling right away. But here’s the confusion if you have never previously experienced Love? You would have no reference to draw from to recognize it. But you would feel an incredible connection with the person.

People who have had Love and lost it will recognize it immediately.

Many people in love who loose each other thru death, have a huge advantage over people who have never experienced love before. They know exactly what it feels like and don’t concern themselves about all the other things that are involved in connecting with someone.

On one knee I asked for her hand in Marriage

When I found Love my only thought was to find a way to be with her all the time. And Asking Will You Marry me? Made it all happen.

Yes I didn’t know what Love was? But I did recognize this wonderful feeling I felt when I first met her. And that incredible feeling has never changed all these years together.

Pay Attention to Your Feelings

When you feel a feeling you have never felt before and nothing else matters. Jump don’t walk to the nearest I do location and enjoy the best that life has to offer.

Don L. Terrill

photo by jayniebell


Getting Married for all the wrong reasons

True Love is the Container

Remember when you were a child and you went to one of your grand parents houses and when you entered their house your first thought would have been the cookie or candy container. Love is a lot like that but here’s the big difference, love isn’t the goodies, love is the container.

It’s Just that Simple

And most people don’t get it, because maybe there not seeing it in their parents? Its obvious by viewing the statistics that marriage success is at an all time low, so finding good examples is going to be a hard thing to find. But don’t let the stats stop you from finding True Love.

I Waited nineteen years before I found True Love

And it was worth the wait. Yes on three serious occasions I toyed with getting down on one knee and asking for their hand in marriage. But after the dust cleared and the light of day came back I didn’t feel any different about that person then I did with my first wife. Yes the first time I thought I was marrying for love ever after, but true love lasts and my marriage didn’t. So I just came to the conclusion that if I cant find something better Ill just stay single and that was that.

Then Cupid in the form of an Elk Brother showed me the way.

Our first meeting was made over the telephone and it almost didn’t get off the ground. Here was the problem. My Elk Brother was supposed to have contacted her and indicate I would be calling her. He didn’t and she almost didn’t say yes to a Sunday lunch arrangement at a local famous Hamburger House. At one point I got a little irritated and said aren’t you Charles friend? She said yes and then we both got on the same page and met the following Sunday.

It was Love at first Sight

Now even today my wife doesn’t buy that when I say it to people. And maybe it’s true that I couldn’t have known it then. But Ill tell you this, in fishing terms she had me hook, line and sinker. In other words I was spell bound by her and its still exactly the same feeling today. Every day shes my first thought in the morning and my last thought at night.

So if you love the Goodies and not the Container, you have not found True Love yet.

But don’t get discouraged and pay attention when the container is the reason your getting down on one knee. Then and only then will Love be your reward for waiting for the real thing.

Don L. Terrill

photo by nouveau


To Refresh is Refreshing to your Partner

He had a Cleaning Fetish

I used to work with this gentleman that wouldn’t shake your hand till he washed his hand. And know matter where he went or what he did he always carried toiletries with him. I always just assumed he had a cleaning fetish and didn’t give it another thought. I think maybe he used this being clean and not smelling a tad to far for good common sense. But then on the other hand many people could use more time in the shower everyday.

Is your Partner Wearing a Gas Mask?

My lovely wife worked with a lady that smelled so bad that they isolated her in one room all by herself, because being up-close and personal with her would have required a gas mask. My wife told me of one incident when they were rewiring the telephone system in her place of employment. Eventually and not previously warned the telephone man entered her office and immediately started gagging and had to leave the room. The serviceperson refused to finish her office till she vacated it and the janitorial service refreshed the room.

Soap is Refreshing

The lady in question was not allowed to return till the telephone guy was finished. I think maybe she had a washing issue? Which is the point I’m trying to make. This lady lived alone and it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to understand why? Maybe that’s the way she was raised or maybe her smeller didn’t work and she couldn’t detect the problem she had.

Good Hygiene always Helps and never Hurts

Granted most people don’t fall in this category, but many people are skirting the edges. Cleaning oneself and maintaining good hygiene is a major necessity to maintaining a good physical presentation to your loving companion. And I’m talking about all the cracks and crevices in the human body. You know those places that haven’t seen the light of day for many moons.

Smell Vision

Even thought people don’t have x ray vision they do have smell vision and stinking will drive people away from you before they have a chance to really get to know the real you. And yes love over looks many short falls in their mate but take it from one who really knows the true meaning of true love. Your mate will always appreciate your attention to smelling good, so don’t slack off and become less loveable because you failed to dust off the dew at the end of the day.

Don L. Terrill
The Marriage Guru

photo by Jaako