Marriage Requires Love

Both Our Parents Walked Away

Marriage was going to give me, what my birth mother and father cheated me out of, a family. My Father enjoyed my Mother long enough to produce two sons. My brother Ron was first and I came one year later. I have no recollection of my mother in my early years, she like my Father walked away and never looked back. Years later my brother and I peddled our bikes to a country location where she supposedly lived. On our first visit we were too shy to knock. On are second visit we saw her hanging up things on the clothesline. Finally we generated enough courage and knocked on the door. She knew who we were and gave us cookies and something to drink. She was living in a small trailer and had one more child and one on the way. You would have though after all this time she would have hugged us or something? Funny what we remember when we think of something. There was no third visit because we never went back. I guess she wasn’t what we were looking for.

I lived in a Pretend World

I remember walking the streets at night and seeing families through there windows and thinking how wonderful it would be to have a family and experience what appeared to be a good thing.

Mother Gave Up & Gave Us Away

Finally when no other options were available my Mother took us in and tried to be integrate us into her second family. It failed and we ended up in a detention facility. From there two people chose me and they wanted to adopt me. And I eventually by hook and crook managed to get through High school. While I was finishing my last year I turned twenty-one and became very popular with my classmates. Booze wise that is. Then I found Peggy and we thought we could fix each other by getting married. It lasted just long enough to produce two incredible boys and then we divorced.

We Were Looking But Didnt Find it

I can’t speak for Peggy’s intentions though I probably can speculate. I think she like me was trying to find love like I was. Unfortunately we didn’t find it with each other.

My Next I Do Was For Love

Twenty years later I found the love of my life and I asked her to marry me for all the right reasons. Number one reason was because I was in love with her and she was in love with me. A friend of each of us both brought us together and it was love at first sight for me. When we first meet I experienced this incredible feeling of well being. In time cupid’s arrow found its mark and love took over my heart and every fiber of my being. So for the first time in my life I knew what true love was and I got down on one knee and asked her to marry me. She said yes and the dreams of my childhood came true. So take it from one who knows, marriage will only work when love is the driving force that brings you together. So don’t rush, just pay attention to your feelings and they will guide you to the altar. That’s my feeling and I’m sticking to it.

Don L. Terrill
The Marriage Guru

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