Close Isn't Love

Love Doesn't Require Speed

All to often we jump before we think and then all hell breaks loose. There are times when people have to make fast decisions but most of the time this is not the case and we hurry because it all feels so good and right. When we mix a first kiss, a warm embrace and the thrill of something new in the air; we have the makings of a bad decision for all the right reasons. Infatuation is easily confused with being in love when it first messes with the new feelings in your head. When this happens to you, take three long breaths and realize whats happening to you. It’s a high and it feels great but it doesn’t mean you should take for a ride. If it is the real thing, it will last the test of time. If it isn’t smile, be glad you kept your control and then realize it's like life, it’s a learning experience and you can use that new found experience to judge the next experience that will soon appear again and test your commitment to finding the right person, for the right reasons.

Like Isn't The Same As Love

If someone has your best interest in mind they will leave that decision up to, whether you move on or not. The connection attraction is a huge force that must be recognized for what it is. Humans have been created to produce their own kind and it’s given an incentive to do so. But that force attraction doesn’t pre select the right person for you, it’s just a force and it's entire motive is to perpetuate the human race and it isn’t concerned whether you’re with the right person for you or not. That right person decision must be made by you on its own merits and shouldn’t be confused with the minds preset agenda, to produce and perpetuate.

Love Doesn't Require A Safety Net

When this force is filling your brain with this high stop for a moment and realize what your doing, then step back and separate the force from the equation and see if the real thing exists? Sure it’s more fun the first way, but it’s going to hurt later on, if you don’t. That’s my feeling and I’m sticking to it.

Don L. Terrill
The Marriage Guru

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