Find Solutions Rather then Attacking
Stop Attacking Each Other
I could have easily used this bit of wisdom during my first marriage. We stopped trying to fix the problem and just attacked each other. So instead of seeing the problem for what it was, we focused all our hurt at each other and slowly lost sight of what the problem was even all about. And then it was all down hill from there.
Divorce is Too Easy To Say
And the problem wasn't just unique to us. It seemed like everyone we knew were all facing the same situation and just blaming each other rather then seeing the problem and finding solutions. Today were a society that yells the word divorce first and never looks to the options that are all around them and anyone of them may prove to solve their situation.
Hindsight is Always Easier to See
I’m forever sorry for the divorce my boys had to experience, but hindsight is always more understandable then facing the facts at that time. In my today thinking I would be really looking at what really is going on and not focusing on each other. Maybe if both of us would have stopped looking at each other and thought about how things were with us and maybe with all options on the table we would be enjoying our grand children today. But most maybes are like snow flakes in the summer time they just don't last long enough for our thoughts to get the point.
Understand Your Options
Think of all the time, money and heartache that could be avoided by just taking the time to understand all the options and stop blaming each other and say Im sorry and lets use all are might to make our dreams to come true.
Parents Should Act Like Parents
And just think how much better that would be for the children when the parents stop being the children and act like parents and really see the joy in staying together and loving each other. And most of all stop putting the blame on each other and just fix the problem thru good thinking and positive thoughts. And then smiles would prevail and hugs would be the order of the day. That’s how I feel and I’m sticking to it.
Don L. Terrill
The Marriage Guru
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Posted by Don L. Terrill at 1:30 PM