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Questions for Upcoming Married Couples
By Cucan Pemo
Marriage is still very sacred to many and there is still a hint of religious morals that will affect the person's thoughts on marriage. You should know that getting married is more than just a piece of paper; it is the beginning of a new life. Marriage is something that you will not just be able to toss away, although, divorce now is more popular than marriage. When you agree to marry someone who are agreeing to share your life with them. It is very important that it is more than just love. It is waking up every day to the same person and not feeling one bit different about them. It is about unconditional love. There are some questions that you will want to ask yourself before you marry.
1) As yourself why do you want to get married.
There is always reason other than love that one would want to get married. You have to be open to yourself and to your partner about the real reason why you may want to take the plunge. Some people feel that it is their duty. Some people feel that it is just right for them. Others feel that they would like to start the family chapter in their life. What is it that is pushing you to feel like you really want to get married?
2) What do you love about your mate?
Are things going to get annoying in time? If they changed 'these things' that you love about them would you're love for them change as well. These are all good related questions that you will need to know answers about. You need to ask yourself such questions because you need to know if your love is conditional or unconditional. If it is conditional, you will know right away when you begin to think about it. Unconditional means things can change. The world can change, but nothing will ever change the way that you feel about the person. If change does exist, it is because you have fallen more in love them than you ever could image.
3) What are the things that you truly hate about the person?
They are to be a few things that you hate about the person. Things that truly grate on your last nerve, however, if you can accept all of their faults to still want to get married, and then you really do love unconditionally.
4) The saying, "I love you, but I don't have to like."
Is there anything in the world that this person could do to make you love them any less. Things other than the obvious like cheating, lying, deceiving, and such. If there are things that are not the unacceptable behavior by most social standards, you may want to rethink the marriage, but you may still eventually be able to say, "yes," to marriage.
5) Are you ready to be husband?
Have you two discussed your role in the marriage? Some people will find that they jumped too quickly into marriage and then they ended up not realizing what that intended. You should tell your mate what you expect from them as your married partner. You need to have this conversation so that married life does not end up being a shock to you.
6) Ask yourself is if this is something that you can make the commitment to.
Is this something that you would be able to keep going for the rest of your life? Remember, saying "I Do," means more than just right now. It is a life changing experience. It is something that you are going to have to live with for the rest of your life. Divorce does not mean anything. It just means that you legally are not obligated to see the person anymore, but then there are the holidays and special occasions. You do not have to think that you can feel okay with marriage, because if it does not work out because of divorce you should want to get married because you want to spend the rest of your life sharing it with someone special.
7) How you feel right now?
Do you feel right now, like this is right? Let your heart, guide, but allow your brain to think things through. You will want to make sure that you feel right about the choice and that you can live with this.
When it comes to marriage, you have to think about things that most people think about after the wedding. It is important to understand the reasoning behind your actions and how you feel about marriage and the person that you love. When it comes to marriage it is scary and overwhelming, but it is worth every feeling in the end. It is worth everything that you ever go through because marriage has so many good things that you hardly care about the bad things. Marriage in general is the way that you can be happy with the one that you love and want.
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Posted by Jessica Watts at 1:57 PM