Building Soul Mate Relationships

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Building Soul Mate Relationships
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Building Great Soul Mate Relationships (not just good ones) in life takes time and commitment. If you choose to spend time and you choose to commit you WILL most certainly build a relationship that will bring you joy and contentment. Some keys to building great relationships include:

Connect with the one that you love

Make time to remind your loved one that they are special. Write them a note, send an email, sms or phone them during the day at work. Do something that you know will be meaningful to your partner. Make sure your efforts don’t go to waste; connect with them keeping their love language in mind. Be intentional about making a daily connection in the middle of your busy life.

Plan your time

The old saying ‘fail to plan and you will plan to fail’ is so true when it comes to soul mate relationships. Planning your time is of utmost importance in building great relationships. The average couple is so busy with work, catching up with friends and other responsibilities that sometimes in an established relationship you can fail to plan to spend time together. Check your calendars each week and make note of time when you will be together. Be intentional about spending casual social time together and also about spending quality time building into your relationship. A regular ‘date night’ is a great idea.

Be protective of your relationship

At times healthy jealousy is a must in soul mate relationships. If you are not going to protect your relationship, who will? Don’t allow yourself to be in situations that compromise the integrity of your relationship with your partner. Always remember that relationships can last forever- make sure that the emotional needs of your partner are being met. Don’t take each other for granted. Your soul mate relationship is important.

Don’t forget the special occasions!

Use your diary or the reminder function in your mobile phone; make a note of birthdays, anniversaries and special events. Talk about important events and make sure that both partners’ expectations are equal. Unnecessary tension can result in a relationship due to unmet expectations. If you would like to go away for your anniversary make sure that your partner knows! They are not mind readers. It may seem to take the spontaneity and romance out of it all but in the long run your relationship will be stronger as a result of discussing such issues.

Introduce surprise to your relationship

Assuming your partner likes surprises, and you have time, there are many ways you can surprise them. Organize with their boss that they will take an extended lunch break and take them out to lunch, send flowers, a card, chocolates- the options are endless and can really add spice to your life together. Interrupt the mundane with a surprise and you’ll be amazed at what it does for your soul mate relationships.

Get away with your friends

If you are in a steady relationship make sure that you haven’t become exclusive with your partner and in the process lost all of your friends! This is a common mistake that couples make when entering into a relationship. At the start everything is new and very exciting and before you know it you have neglected the old friend that you have had since high school. Friendships are important and it is healthy to have mutual friends and for each person to have their own friends in soul mate relationships. It brings diversity and spending time apart only makes the heart grow fonder!

Become a student of your partner

If you are in a relationship you need to become a full-time student of your partner. Make it your mission to learn everything there is to know about them. Their likes, dislikes, strengths, weaknesses, how they relate to others, how they feel most loved. When you take the focus off yourself and your needs and focus on your partner you will discover that you are in the process of building great soul mate relationships. As you focus on your partner they will become more focused on you- it is always better to give than to receive!


The biggest key to building great soul mate relationships is communication! Learn to communicate- we are not all born with the ability to communicate with each other- sometimes it takes time and energy to learn. It is an art and effective communication can mean the difference between an average relationship and a great one! Read books, listen to motivational speakers, watch other people- master this one and you will notice a difference in your relationships.

Soul Mate Relationships are worth fighting for. Be intentional about building a great relationship with you partner. You wouldn’t purchase a car and never service it! Treat your relationship with care and make sure that you pay attention to it and service it often. If you do it will last the distance and you will know happiness and contentment for a lifetime.

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